Funerals

"Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead... this is my gospel...'If we have died with him, we will also live with him..." (2 Timothy 2:8-11)

Whether you are looking to plan ahead or whether you are working now in a time of immediate loss, we hope this information will be helpful to you, and it comes with our prayers.

 

Funerals can serve many purposes, and be occasions both of farewell and celebration of life - each within the context and promise of Christian hope. In the resurrection of Jesus Christ we commend those whom we love and who have died into the faithful and loving truth of God, in the promise of eternal life. This is the faith held for over 2'000 years, and proclaimed anew in each generation.

 

Grant us, Lord God, to trust you not for ourselves alone, but also for those whome we love and who are hidden from us by the shadow of death; that, as we believe your power to have raised our Lord Jesus Christ from the dead, so may we trust your love to give eternal life to all who believe in him; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who is alive and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and forever. Amen. 

 

THE FUNERAL SERVICE - 

in CHURCH - A funeral service can be held in any of our six church buildings for anyone from the parish, or indeed by arrangement for anyone who has a link to the parish and wishes the service to take place here. Service times are arranged by agreement with the Vicar and may include clergy or ministers from elsewhere. There is no time limit to the length of service - which may be held within the context of the celebration of Holy Communion, and by traditional or more contemporary wording and style. Services may include hymns, recorded music and various readings (secular and religious - see below), and can be shaped according to each occasion.

in the CREMATORIUM - Our local crematorium is at 'Stonefall' in Harrogate. Funeral services take place here for all religions or none, and can be led by your local Vicar, parish clergy, or others. Hymns, readings and music are all possible within the service, but the service time is restricted to a length of 20 minutes. Crematorium fees are set by the Borough Council; Ministers fees are set by the national Church.

in both CHURCH and CREMATORIUM - it is not unusual for a service to be held in church followed by an act of cremation at 'Stonefall,' this second part may or may not be accompanied by family and mourners or attended solely by the Funeral Director prior to the return of ashes to the family for scattering or interment (burial). Also, it is possible to hold a service of Cremation at 'Stonefall' followed by a larger service in Church, sometimes referred to as a 'Memorial Service;' this might be with or without the presence of the ashes. -- These alternatives allow for larger, longer services (than are possible at the Creamtorium), whilst still enabling cremation to take place. Also, either option can be arranged to avoid seperating mourners if some wish to be present at the Crematorium as well as the Church.

 

FUNERAL DIRECTORS -
We generally work with two local firms of funeral directors, although there are other firms in Ripon and Harrogate as well as further afield. Those with whom we work the most are:

LEE & HOLMES FUNERAL DIRECTORS
12 Panorama Close, 
Pateley Bridge,
Harrogate.
HG3 5NY

Tel:       01423 712062
Mobile:  07802176466
info@leeandholmes.co.uk

 

W. BOWERS - Services to the bereaved
Birstwith Road, 
Hampsthwaite,
Harrogate.
HG3 2EU

Tel:       01423 770258
info@bowersfuneraldirectors.co.uk

 

HYMNS & READINGS

Within the funeral service there are opportunities for various hymns, readings, music and other chosen elements.

The number and choice of READINGS can be shaped and agreed with the minister conducting the service, including both Biblical and non-biblical readings (only one reading must be from the Bible).

In choosing HYMNS we seek to encourage finding those which say what is desired, but also which perhaps people know well, as well as those which may have been partcularly stipulated by the loved one themselves. Hymns serve several purposes within the service not least of which is an expression of our love, prayer and emotion through another's emotive words, but also through the tune and music using our physical self.
MUSIC within the service can be provided by the organ or other musicians; or recorded - by arrangement of suitable media with the Funeral Director and Church. 

 

EULOGY / TRIBUTE(s) AND SERMON 

It is remembered that a funeral has two focus points - the one who has died and, the promises of Christ; each of these are held together and are vital. We seek to remember and commemorate our loved one within the context of Christian Hope and faith.

One or more Tributes (Eulogies) may be made either by members of the family and friends or by the minister. These are opportunities to recall aspects of the lfe lived as well as personal remembrances and celebrations. If the Tribute is made by the minister s/he will often be speaking on behalf of the family than in their own right, and will seek beforehand to have gathered suitable and sufficient information from the family in order to speak on their behalf.

Alongside the Tibute(s), the minister will give a brief sermon encouraging us not only in holding faith for the one who has now died, but also in holding faith ourselves, in the continuing days of our lives - to be encouraged and held in the full Gospel ('Good News') of Christ.

 

CHARITABLE DONATIONS -

In both CHURCH and CREMATORIUM it is possible to receive a Collection in celebration of the life of the one for whom we gather. This Collection may be made in favour of one or more charities as determined in advance by the deceased, or at the time of the funeral by the family. If the funeral takes place in the Church please may we ask that the life and work of the Church (itself a Registered Charity) might also be considered as one of these appropriate charities. The request and wishes of the deceased and/or their family as regards such a Collection will always be respected. A Collection in Church legally needs to be recorded through the Church accounts (irrespective of its final recipients), at a Crematorium this will be handled by the Funeral Directors. Appropriate contact details for any nominated charities would be very helpful in fulfilling these requests.

 

BURIAL, AND INTERMENT OF ASHES -

within our parish, full burial is possible at St Mary's, Greenhow, St Mary the Virgin, Ramsgill and St Chad's, Middlesmoor.
It is possible to 'reserve' a burial plot within a churchyard, and this can be arranged through the Diocesan Registrar (Mr Peter Foskett) based at:

Lupton Fawcett Denison Till
Yorkshire House,
East Parade,
Leeds.
LS1 5BD

Tel: 0113 2802102
e-mail peter.foskett@lf-dt.com

Anyone resident within the (ecclesiastical) Church Parish, or who dies within the Church Parish, has the right to be buried within the churchyard if space permits. At the discretion of the Vicar and/or PCC it is also possible for those with a connection to the Parish to be buried here.

 

INTERMENT (burial) of ashes can take place at each f the churcyards above and also at Bewerley Grange Chapel, St Cuthbert's, Pateley Bridge and St Michael and All Angels, Wilsill. It is possible to inter ashes: - within an existing family grave - or within the 'Garden of Rest.' Here ashes are interred in a designated plot (within a casket or urn, or loose) within a garden that is left clear of Memorial Stones, each name entered in a 'Book of Remembrance,' kept within the church. Such gardens exist at St Michael and All Angels, Wilsill - St Cuthbert's, Pateley Bridge - Bewerley range Chapel (Memorial Stones accepted here but must be in keeping with existing memorial stones) - St Chad's, Middlesmoor. It is not permitted to scatter ashes within the consecrated ground of a churchyard.

 

MEMORIAL STONES - 

The Churchyard and grounds are held in trust by the Parochial Church Council for the common good of the entire community - present, past and future; as such we seek to abide by agreed common regulations to maintain and protect the character of each churchyard within its own setting, and as it has developed over many years. The rules regulating Memorial Stones vary around the country but carry this common aim.

All local Memorial Stone Masons hold copies of the regulations for our churchyards (these are also available from the Vicar) and they will guide you and assist you to choose a design of memorial that befits your wishes and the rules concerned. These rules relate to choice of stone, size of memorial, lettering and decoration, and wording. Memorials may be made of certain Limestone, Sandstone, Granite or Slate, however to stay in keeping with other Memorials we ask that all Headstones are made from York Sandstone. All memorials should be dressed 'smooth' only, not to a polished or mirror finish. In all decisions regarding Memorial Stones we seek to work together to produce a memorial that is fitting and desired, and faithfully serves its full, true purpose. For any questions concerning these please contact the Vicar in advance of purchasing a memorial or stone.

 


FLOWERS & CARE OF GRAVES -

Volunteers work very hard to maintain our churchyards as beautiful, accesible and prayerful places. The churchyard is managed and cared for by the PCC on behalf of the whole community, while Memorial Stones and Grave Space remain the responsibility of each family. Maintaining the churchyard is often very demanding - offers of help will most likely be gratefully received, and a family tending the graves of its loved ones is a very traditional action of care and memorial. 
The placing of flowers is of course entirely permitted - please do not be offended if you return and they have been removed, we try to clea away flowers which have died. (removing flowers from plastic wrappers will slow them rotting in the rain).
Artificial flowers and decorations are not permitted and please try to avoid these as they do not biodegrade and can accidentally be mown, causing distress and unfortunate mess.

 

HYMNS

There are many hymns that you could choose from for a funeral service. Listed below are some of the ones we are asked for regularly. If you are unfamiliar with the tunes of the hymns please discuss this with the minister who is taking the funeral. There are occasionally more than one tune to certain hymns and we would like to make certain that we play the tune you are expecting the hymn to be sung to. 

Abide with me

All things bright and beautiful

Alleluia, sing to Jesus

Amazing Grace

And did those feet in ancient time (Jerusalem)

Dear Lord and Father of mankind

Eternal Father, strong to save

For all the saints who from their labours rest

Great is thy faithfulness, O God my Father

Guide me, O thou great Redeemer

How sweet the name of Jesus sounds

I heard the voice of Jesus say

Immortal, invisible, God only wise

Just as I am without one plea

Lead us heavenly Father, lead us

Lord of all hopefulness, Lord of all joy

Love divine, all love excelling

Make me a channel of your peace

Morning has broken

Now thank we all our God

O God, our help in ages past

O Jesus I have promised

O Lord my God, whem I in awesome wonder (How great thou art)

On a hill far away stood an old rugged cross

Praise my sould the King of heaven

The day thou gavest, Lord, is ended

The King of love my shepherd is

Th Lord's my Shepherd, I'll not want

There is a green hill far away

There is a Redeemer

Thine be the glory, risen, conquering Son

To God be the glory, great things he has done!

When I survey the wondrous cross

 

Bible Readings

For thousands of years people have sought comfort and inspiration from Holy Scripture at significant moments of sorrow or joy.

Here is a selection of Bible readings that may be suitable for a funeral, memorial service, or for private reflection:

 

John 6.35-40

Jesus said to them, 'I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty. But I said to you that you have seen me and yet do not believe. Everything that the Father gives me will come to me, and anyone who comes to me I will never drive away; for I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will, but the will of him who sent me. And this is the will of him who sent me, that I should lose nothing of all that he has given me, but raise it up on the last day. This is indeed the will of my Father, that all who see the Son and believe in him may have eternal life; and I will raise them up on the last day.'

 

John 11.17-27

When Jesus arrived, he found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. Now Bethany was near Jerusalem, some two miles away, and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary to console them about their brother. When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went and met him, while Mary stayed at home. Martha said to Jesus, 'Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that God will give you whatever you ask of him.' Jesus said to her, 'Your brother will rise again.' Martha said to him, 'I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.' Jesus said to her, 'I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?' She said to him, 'Yes, Lord, I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, the one coming into the world.'

 

John 14.1-6

Jesus said to his disciples: 'Do not let your hearts be troubled. Believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father's house there are many dwelling places. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, so that where I am, there you may be also. And you know the way to the place where I am going.' Thomas said to him, 'Lord, we do not know where you are going. How can we know the way?' Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'

 

Romans 8.31-end

What then are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies. Who is to condemn? It is Christ Jesus, who died, yes, who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us. Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, 'For your sake we are being killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep to be slaughtered.'

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 

1 Corinthians 15.20ff

But in fact Christ has been raised from the dead, the first fruits of those who have died. For since death came through a human being, the resurrection of the dead has also come through a human being; for as all die in Adam, so all will be made alive in Christ. But each in his own order: Christ the first fruits, then at his coming those who belong to Christ. Then comes the end, when he hands over the kingdom to God the Father, after he has destroyed every ruler and every authority and power. For he must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet. The last enemy to be destroyed is death. For 'God has put all things in subjection under his feet.' But when it says, 'All things are put in subjection,' it is plain that this does not include the one who put all things in subjection under him. When all things are subjected to him, then the Son himself will also be subjected to the one who put all things in subjection under him, so that God may be all in all.

 

1 Thessalonians 4.13-end

We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about those who have died, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have died. For this we declare to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will by no means precede those who have died. For the Lord himself, with a cry of command, with the archangel's call and with the sound of God's trumpet, will descend from heaven, and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up in the clouds together with them to meet the Lord in the air; and so we will be with the Lord for ever. Therefore encourage one another with these words.

 

Revelation 21.1-7

I, John, saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying,

'See, the home of God is among mortals.

He will dwell with them; they will be his peoples,

and God himself will be with them; he will wipe every tear from their eyes.

Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more,

for the first things have passed away.'

And the one who was seated on the throne said, 'See, I am making all things new.' Also he said, 'Write this, for these words are trustworthy and true.' Then he said to me, 'It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give water as a gift from the spring of the water of life. Those who conquer will inherit these things, and I will be their God and they will be my children.'

 

Psalm 26 (27):1,4.1013.14

The Lord is my light and my help.
The Lord is my light and my help:
whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life
before whom shall I shrink?

There is one thing that I ask of the Lord
for this I long,
to live in the house of the Lord
all the days of my life.

Do not abandon or forsake me,
O God, my help.

Though father and mother forsake me,
the Lord will receive me.

I am sure I shall see the Lord's goodness 
in the land of the living.
Hope in him, hold firm and take heart.
Hope in the Lord.

 

Psalm 121
I lift up my eyes to the hills—
from where will my help come? 
My help comes from the Lord,
who made heaven and earth. 


He will not let your foot be moved;
he who keeps you will not slumber. 
He who keeps Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep. 


The Lord is your keeper;
the Lord is your shade at your right hand. 
The sun shall not strike you by day,
nor the moon by night. 


The Lord will keep you from all evil;
he will keep your life. 
The Lord will keep
your going out and your coming in
from this time on and for evermore.

 

More readings:

Online Bibles can be found at: http://bible.oremus.org/ or www.biblegateway.com

Click on the Bible website and type in the reference below:

Old Testament  
2 Samuel 1.17,23-end Lament for Saul and Jonathan
Job 19.23-27 I know that my Redeemer lives
Isaiah 53.1-10 The suffering servant
Isaiah 61.1-3 To comfort all who mourn
Lamentations 3 The Lord’s love never ceases
Daniel 12.1-3[5-9] Everyone whose name…
   
Psalms  
Psalm 23 The Lord is my shepherd; therefore can I lack nothing.
Psalm 25 To you, O Lord, I lift up my soul. O my God, in you I trust;
Psalm 27 I shall see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.
Psalm 34 The Lord is near to the broken-hearted
Psalm 38.9-end Do not forsake me, O Lord; O my God, do not be far from me
Psalm 42 As a deer longs for flowing streams, so my soul longs for you, O God.
Psalm 90 Lord, you have been our refuge from one generation to another.
Psalm 116 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful ones
Psalm 118.4-end I shall not die, but I shall live, and recount the deeds of the Lord.
Psalm 121 I lift up my eyes to the hills- from where will my help come?
Psalm 139 Where can I go from your spirit: where can I flee from your presence?
   
New Testament  
Matthew 25.31- end The final judgement
Mark 10.13-16 Let the little children come
Mark 15.33-39; 16.1-6 He has risen, he is not here
Luke 12.35-40

The coming of the Son of Man

Luke 24.1-11 The Resurrection
John 5.19-29 Whoever hears my word..
John 6.35-58 All the Father gives me…
John 11.17-27 I am the resurrection and life
John 14.1-6 In my Father’s house…
John 19.38-end Jesus' burial
John 20.1-11 Jesus' Resurrection
Romans 6.3-11 Baptized into Christ…
Romans 8.18-30 The future glory
Romans 8.31-end Nothing can separate us
Romans 14.7-12 Lord of the living and the dead
1 Corinthians 13.1-end Faith, hope and love remain
1 Corinthians 15 The resurrection of the dead
2 Corinthians 4 and 5 Mortal and heavenly bodies
Ephesians 3.14-19 The depth of Christ’s love
Philippians 3.10-end God’s purposes for us
1 Thessalonians 4 We will always be with the Lord
2 Timothy 2.8-13 So shall we live with Christ …
1 Peter 1.3-9 Born anew to a living hope
1 John 3.1-3 We shall be like Christ …
Revelation 7.9 - end Worship in heaven
Revelation 21.1-7 Behold I make all things new
Revelation 21 and 22 The Lord God will be their light

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Church of England have also provided a very helpful website for funerals, please click on this link to take you there http://churchofenglandfunerals.org/

 

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