Weddings

Christian and Lucy's Wedding at St Chad's, Middlesmoor from Silver Sixpence Films.

Your Church Wedding in the Church of England

 

Help and Advice with Weddings

 

We are delighted to marry those who are eligible to do so. This means that at least one of you must either live in the parish of Upper Nidderdale, or have a qualifying connection. More information about qualifying connections can be found on the Church of England’s wedding web-site http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/

You may fulfil the qualifying connection criteria by worshipping with us regularly (i.e. at least monthly) for a period of nine months. We can hold a date for you (but not formally confirm a wedding booking) during this qualification period.

For further information or to make a booking please contact the Reverend Darryl Hall on 01423 711414 (usual day off - Friday)

 

Need help choosing music for your wedding?

There are many hymns that you could choose from for a wedding service. Listed below are some of the ones we are asked for regularly. If you are unfamiliar with the tunes of the hymns please discuss this with the minister who is taking the wedding. There are occasionally more than one tune to certain hymns and we would like to make certain that we play the tune you are expecting the hymn to be sung to. Some of our church organs may not be suitable for all of the processional and recessional pieces of music. Please seek the advice of the organist who will be playing at your wedding.

 

This web site is a great help as you can click on the music and hear what it sounds like http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/hymns-media-player.aspx

 

Processional (as the bride arrives)

Bridal March from Lohengrin (Wagner)

Arrival of the Queen of Sheba (Handel)

Hornpipe in F from the Water Music (Handel)

Trumpet Tune (Purcell)

Trumpet Voluntary (Jeremiah Clarke)

 

Recessional (as the newly weds leave the church)

Crown Imperial (Walton)

Wedding March from Misummer Night's Dream (Mendelssohn)

Finale from the Water Music (Handel)

 

Hymns

All things Bright and Beautiful

Be thou my vision

Dear Lord and Father of mankind

Give me joy in my heart

Great is thy faithfulness, O God my Father

Jerusalem

Lord of all hopefulness (Please note this is played to the same tune as Be thou my vision)

Love divine all loves excelling

Make me a channel of your peace

Morning has broken

Now thank we all our God

O worship the king, all glorious above

Praise my soul, the king of heaven

Praise to the Lord, the almighty, the king of creation

The King of love my shepherd is

We pledge to one another

 

How about some help choosing Bible Readings for your wedding?

You must include at least one Bible reading or you may wish to use two. You can also include an additional reading (prose or poetry) from another source (please agree this choice with the priest conducting your wedding).

Bible Readings for Your Wedding

The following are just some suggestions for Bible readings. These are in the translation usually used in our churches but, if you prefer a different version, that is fine. However, please check your choice of reading with the minister conducting your wedding. We have found some material on the Web that claims to be from the Bible but is not, or not in any format or translation that we recognise.

 

New Testament

John 2.1-11

Jesus’ first miracle - at a wedding!

On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ And Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, ‘Fill the jars with water.’ And they filled them up to the brim. He said to them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it. When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.’ Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.

 

Matthew 5.1-10

A summary of Jesus’ teaching from the “Sermon on the Mount” - sometimes called the Beatitudes.

When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to him. Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying:

‘Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.’

 

1 Corinthians 13

A great poem in praise of love as the greatest quality of all Christian virtues, from the apostle, St. Paul.

If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways.

For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

 

Ephesians 3.14-end

St. Paul’s prayer for his friends.

I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth takes its name. I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love. I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Now to him who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more than all we can ask or imagine, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations, for ever and ever. Amen.

 

Colossians 3.12-17

How to get dressed - and live!

As God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

 

1 John 4.7-12

God’s love is shown to us in Jesus Christ and in his followers.

Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.

 

Old Testament

Genesis 1.26-28

A story of how God created men and women.

Then God said, ‘Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.’

So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.’

 

Song of Solomon 2.10-13; 8.6,7

From an ancient Hebrew love-song - probably written for a royal wedding.

My beloved speaks and says to me:
‘Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away;
for now the winter is past,
the rain is over and gone.
The flowers appear on the earth;
the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtle dove is heard in our land.
The fig tree puts forth its figs,
and the vines are in blossom; they give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away.’
Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm;
for love is strong as death, passion fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire, a raging flame.
Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it.
If one offered for love all the wealth of one’s house, it would be utterly scorned.

 

Ecclesiastes  4.9-12

The teacher extols the value of a companion.

Two are better than one,because they have a good reward for their toil.
For if they fall,one will lift up the other;
but woe to one who is alone and falls
and does not have another to help.
Again, if two lie together, they keep warm;
but how can one keep warm alone?
And though one might prevail against another,
two will withstand one.
A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

 

Here are some of the most frequently asked questions that we get

Question:- Am I eligible to be married in the Parish Church?

Answer:- Here is a list of the criteria to qualify:- 

1. One of you, or your parents, is resident in the parish, or on the electoral role, or
2. One of you was baptised or prepared for confirmation in the parish, or
3. One of you, or your parents, has at any time lived in the parish for 6 months or more, or
4. One of you, or your parents has attended worship in the Parish Church for 6 months, or
5. One of your parents or grandparents was married in one of the parish churches, or
6. If none of these apply then you could always qualify by worship which means worshipping in the parish for a period of 6 months. You may have heard that it is six months, it actually works like this: Your first visit counts as month 0 not month 1, so it is months 0, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 which is actually 7 months not 6. Then technically after the 7 months if we conducted your service, when we said 'If anyone knows any reason in law why these two may not marry, you are to declare it now,' someone could say, 'they haven't had their banns read.' Banns can only be read after you have qualified to get married. They are read out for a period of three weeks at the main Sunday Service (here we read them out at St. Cuthbert's, Pateley Bridge, 10:30am). This adds just short of a month onto the 7 month qualification. Sadly, we can make mistakes and forget to read the Banns out (this is very rare but can happen). We cannot marry you if your banns have not been read out so our policy is to build in a small period to allow for any mistakes which brings the period to 9 months.

There are some cases which will require a Common Licence or a Special Licence, usually if at least one of you is a foreign national living abroad. 

Question:- Do I have to believe in God?

Answer:- Provided that you are eligible, you are welcome to marry in the Church of England whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are christened and regardless of whether you go to church or not. It's your church, and we welcome you!

Question:- What if one of us is divorced?

Answer:- We are permitted to remarry divorcees in many circumstances so it may be worth your while enquiring further

Question:- What will it cost?

Answer:- The fees for a church wedding in these parishes for 2014 are

Statutory Fees that must be paid:(as of July 2016)
Marriage Service  £415
Reading of Banns £27

Fees that we ask couples to pay:
Verger     £30
(Someone who helps with the set up and tidy up of the church, offer advice and available to help with any questions)      Organist £60

Optional Extras
Church Heating              £50
Bells                               £95 (only at St Chad's Middlesmoor and St Cuthbert's, Pateley Bridge)
Flowers arrangers          £65 (This does not include the cost of the flowers)
Permit for professional video recording £100

The fees are usually increased in line with inflation each year.

Question:- How do I find out more?

Answer:- Please do arrange to see one of our clergy about your wedding - we shall be delighted to do all we can to help.  Just phone our Vicar, the Reverend Darryl Hall  on 01423 711414 (usual day off - Friday) to make an appointment. 

 

Click on this link to take you back to the churches of Upper Nidderdale http://www.thechurchinthedale.com/our-churches/the-united-parish-of-upper-nidderdale/the-churches-of-upper-nidderdale/