Your Church Wedding in the Church of England
Help and Advice with Weddings
We are delighted to marry those who are eligible to do so. This means that at least one of you must either live in the parish of Upper Nidderdale, or have a qualifying connection. More information about qualifying connections can be found on the Church of England’s wedding web-site http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/
You may fulfil the qualifying connection criteria by worshipping with us regularly (i.e. at least monthly) for a period of nine months. We can hold a date for you (but not formally confirm a wedding booking) during this qualification period.
For further information or to make a booking please contact the Reverend Darryl Hall on 01423 711414 (usual day off - Friday)
Need help choosing music for your wedding?
There are many hymns that you could choose from for a wedding service. Listed below are some of the ones we are asked for regularly. If you are unfamiliar with the tunes of the hymns please discuss this with the minister who is taking the wedding. There are occasionally more than one tune to certain hymns and we would like to make certain that we play the tune you are expecting the hymn to be sung to. Some of our church organs may not be suitable for all of the processional and recessional pieces of music. Please seek the advice of the organist who will be playing at your wedding.
This web site is a great help as you can click on the music and hear what it sounds like http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/hymns-media-player.aspx
Processional (as the bride arrives)
Bridal March from Lohengrin (Wagner)
Arrival of the Queen of Sheba (Handel)
Hornpipe in F from the Water Music (Handel)
Trumpet Tune (Purcell)
Trumpet Voluntary (Jeremiah Clarke)
Recessional (as the newly weds leave the church)
Crown Imperial (Walton)
Wedding March from Misummer Night's Dream (Mendelssohn)
Finale from the Water Music (Handel)
All things Bright and Beautiful
Be thou my vision
Dear Lord and Father of mankind
Give me joy in my heart
Great is thy faithfulness, O God my Father
Lord of all hopefulness (Please note this is played to the same tune as Be thou my vision)
Love divine all loves excelling
Make me a channel of your peace
Morning has broken
Now thank we all our God
O worship the king, all glorious above
Praise my soul, the king of heaven
Praise to the Lord, the almighty, the king of creation
The King of love my shepherd is
We pledge to one another
How about some help choosing Bible Readings for your wedding?
You must include at least one Bible reading or you may wish to use two. You can also include an additional reading (prose or poetry) from another source (please agree this choice with the priest conducting your wedding).
Bible Readings for Your Wedding
The following are just some suggestions for Bible readings. These are in the translation usually used in our churches but, if you prefer a different version, that is fine. However, please check your choice of reading with the minister conducting your wedding. We have found some material on the Web that claims to be from the Bible but is not, or not in any format or translation that we recognise.
Jesus’ first miracle - at a wedding!
On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ And Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, ‘Fill the jars with water.’ And they filled them up to the brim. He said to them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it. When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.’ Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.
A summary of Jesus’ teaching from the “Sermon on the Mount” - sometimes called the Beatitudes.
When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to him. Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying:
‘Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
1 Corinthians 13
A great poem in praise of love as the greatest quality of all Christian virtues, from the apostle, St. Paul.
If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways.
For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
St. Paul’s prayer for his friends.
I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth takes its name. I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love. I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
Now to him who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more than all we can ask or imagine, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations, for ever and ever. Amen.
How to get dressed - and live!
As God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
1 John 4.7-12
God’s love is shown to us in Jesus Christ and in his followers.
Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.
A story of how God created men and women.
Then God said, ‘Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.’
So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.’
Song of Solomon 2.10-13; 8.6,7
From an ancient Hebrew love-song - probably written for a royal wedding.
My beloved speaks and says to me:
The teacher extols the value of a companion.
Two are better than one,because they have a good reward for their toil.
Here are some of the most frequently asked questions that we get
Question:- Am I eligible to be married in the Parish Church?
Answer:- Here is a list of the criteria to qualify:-
1. One of you, or your parents, is resident in the parish, or on the electoral role, or
There are some cases which will require a Common Licence or a Special Licence, usually if at least one of you is a foreign national living abroad.
Question:- Do I have to believe in God?
Answer:- Provided that you are eligible, you are welcome to marry in the Church of England whatever your beliefs, whether or not you are christened and regardless of whether you go to church or not. It's your church, and we welcome you!
Question:- What if one of us is divorced?
Answer:- We are permitted to remarry divorcees in many circumstances so it may be worth your while enquiring further
Question:- What will it cost?
Answer:- The fees for a church wedding in these parishes for 2014 are
Statutory Fees that must be paid:(as of July 2016)
Fees that we ask couples to pay:
The fees are usually increased in line with inflation each year.
Question:- How do I find out more?
Answer:- Please do arrange to see one of our clergy about your wedding - we shall be delighted to do all we can to help. Just phone our Vicar, the Reverend Darryl Hall on 01423 711414 (usual day off - Friday) to make an appointment.
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